Common Reasons For Divorce

When you get married, you don’t even dream of a break up, let alone a divorce. Life is full of love and hopes, and you are sure it will last forever. When things go wrong, you are hurt and bewildered and wonder where you went wrong. Divorce leaves you an emotional wreck for a long, long time.

Consider your first date with your significant other. Has it ever occurred to you that the seeds of an ideal relationship or the seeds of divorce are present in your very first date? If you are alert and aware, you will spot these seeds immediately. Such observation on your part can save you a lot of misery in future.

There are hundreds of reasons for divorce, and here are some of the most common ones:

·         Unsatisfied marital requirements

·         Desertion or abandonment

·         Adultery

·         Abuse

·         Bigamy

·         Sexual incompatibility

·         Falling out of love with the partner

·         Conversion of one spouse to another religion

·         Differences of opinion regarding culture, lifestyle, raising kids, sharing household chores, and so on

·         Mental disorders

·         Criminal tendencies

·         Financial problems

·         Irreconcilable differences

·         Interference of in-laws

·         Intellectual incompatibility

·         Marriage contains no scope for personal growth

Your marriage is in danger if:

1. You can no longer communicate with your spouse. 

Effective communication is the backbone of any union, and marriage is no exception. Your marriage cannot possibly succeed if you can no longer share your feelings, discuss vital issues, or work out differences with your partner.

2. You realize that your marriage is a big mistake. 

Love is literally blind. Most couples hardly do any pre-marriage analysis. The dating phase of the relationship is wasted under the intoxication of love. You must spend a lot of time before marriage learning more and more about each other. For example, if you discover after marriage that your spouse is not interested in having children while you can’t wait to have your first baby, you are in for serious trouble.

3. Your family history is chock-full of divorces and separations. 

Research has shown that couples with happily married parents make a greater success of their marriages than couples who have a family background of unhappy marriages and divorces.

4. You got married in your teens. 

Research has also shown that marriages of people who get married in their teens crumble faster unlike those of people who get married in their twenties.

5. You got married because you thought everything will change for the better after marriage. 

Things don’t get better after marriage. They get worse! In other words, marriage is not a cure for relationship ills. If you are not happy with your partner before marriage, don’t make the mistake of thinking that getting married to the same person will make you happier.

Start working on your marriage right from your dating days. If you notice a powerful potential for conflict and rift during the initial dating phase, you had better break up then and there and save yourself the trauma of a divorce later.