Making Your Break Up a Positive Experience

You have just had a break up, and it has left you devastated. You are done with the crying now, and you are wondering what to do about the emptiness you feel within. What positive steps can you take to get over the pain of a break up and start living again?

1. Get Detached 

Don’t personalize your break up! Many people who have just had a break up think thoughts that begin with, “If only I...,” “If I hadn’t...,” “It’s my fault,” and so on. Your relationship was not your responsibility alone; it was a partnership. So quit acting as if you are solely responsible for what happened.  

Moreover, some relationships are just not meant to succeed. Perhaps, you and your partner were not meant for each other. The break up of your previous relationship could mean that there is someone better waiting for you. 

2. Look Ahead 

Don’t make the mistake of looking back. You must realize and accept the fact that the past is over. The past won’t come back again; it is gone forever. It has vanished! So what’s the use of mentally dwelling in it? 

Looking ahead into the future makes more sense. Dream of a brilliant future; imagine yourself enjoying an ideal relationship with your dream partner.  

3. Forget Your Break Up 

Engage in positive activities that will help you forget your break up. You can develop a new hobby or learn a new language. You can spend time with friends and family members. If you are an altruist, you can help the unfortunate people in your community or locality. You can take a vacation by the beach and enjoy the sun kissed sands and the blue waves. Do anything that will relax you and make you happy. Such positive activities will help restore your lost self-esteem. 

4. Don’t Contact Your Ex 

Attempts to contact your ex might create pain. Since you are already in pain, why give yourself more pain? If you feel overwhelmed with emotions, write a long letter to your ex, pouring out your heart. But don’t ever make the mistake of sending it! Alternately, you can give vent to your emotions by writing into your journal. This helps you view your lost relationship from different perspectives. 

5. Try the Jennifer Aniston Method 

This is what Jennifer Aniston did to get over her break up with Brad Pitt. You can apply it to your own life. 

·         She got busy with her career, signing contracts for more and more movies. 

·         She surrounded herself with a strong support group of good friends such as Catherine Keener, Courtney Cox, and Chris McMillan, her long-time hair dresser. 

·         She got rid of everything that reminded her of Brad, including the house in which they lived together. 

·         She kept her self-esteem intact by getting actively involved in social life. 

·         She just moved on with life; she simply accepted the fact that the relationship is over. 

·         Jen never ever bashed or blamed her ex.  

6. Mend Your Shattered Ego 

If you got dumped, your ego would have taken a good beating. Now is the time to mend that shattered ego. Engage in some ego-boosting activities. Go to the gym and get slimmer. Make some new friends who value your friendship. Do everything that will make you feel comfortable with yourself again. 

Converting a painful break up into a positive experience might be a little tough, but it isn’t impossible. Break up is a reality; we must learn to live with it. The simple tips outlined above should help you take your break up in a positive spirit and move on with life. 

An amazing way to reboot your belief system and create a better and new reality for yourself after a breakup is the Belief Buster Program.  Click here to learn more!