5 Questions Every Couple Should Ask to Avoid a Breakup

Everybody has asked relationship questions at one time or the other. They crop up at the most crucial point of your relationship, and at that time, answers are elusive. Most of your relationship questions belong to the “Should I or Should I not” category. The answers to such queries are with you and you alone, because you know best about your relationship.

What follows is a collection of 5 commonly asked relationship questions and possible answers to them. You might or might not be able to apply these answers to your unique personal life; but these answers might inspire you to come up with a different answer that might suit you.

1. You fell in love like a ton of bricks. Later, you discovered that your partner has a mental or physical disorder. What should you do?  

Your actions depend entirely on your personal temperament. To a large extent, it depends on the nature of your partner’s illness. If your partner is a raving lunatic with sadistic tendencies, you had better run away and save yourself. You don’t have to be battered by anybody, even if it is a “sick” person.

At the same time, you have to remember that love is not all roses; it has a generous portion of thorns too. You might feel like sticking to your love and help him/her overcome the mental/physical problems. After all, if it is a mild form of depression or anxiety, you can easily manage it.

2. You have fallen for a single parent. You are trying hard to get into the child’s good books, but the child dislikes you intensely. What should you do? 

Find out why the child dislikes you. The child might just be starving for love; she/he might be feeling insecure. Offer the child your love. Show that you care a lot. Spend a lot of time with the child.

If you plan to marry your lover, get friendly with the child first; otherwise, your marriage can become miserable and lead to a painful break up. If you cannot get the child to love you, you had better postpone the wedding till the problem is solved or break up amicably.

3. When is the best time to start dating again after a break up? 

There is no definite answer to this one! I have known people who break up today only to get into an emotional entanglement tomorrow. How long you wait depends on your individual personality. Some people recover from a break up incredibly fast; others need a lot of time; yet others never recover all their life. So, it depends on how soon you manage to let go of the past and start living again. There is no definite fixed time you HAVE to wait before you start dating again.

4. How can you have an ideal relationship that lasts? 

Here are the basic ingredients that go into an ideal relationship that lasts forever, at least, till death do us part: effective communication skills, trust, love, respect, affection, working out differences of opinion amicably, going the extra mile for the other, and spending time for yourself occasionally while enjoying the company of the significant other always.

5. When should you break up? 

When you are very unhappy about your relationship, when your needs are no longer met, when you no longer feel loved, when you can’t love anymore, when you are being abused, when love, respect, and trust no longer exist in your relationship, it is time to break up.

However, don’t just break up because you are “unhappy.” A long lasting relationship is an asset and hard to come by. Try your hardest to make that relationship work. Talk to your partner; go for couple counseling. If nothing works, walk out of the relationship without tears or regrets.